The first & only 'self-help' book I tried actually *was* I'm OK, You're OK & I ended up doing 4 years in a TA group. Not much changed, apart from kicking a nightly weed habit & a toxic relationship into touch.

Some years later I hit the depression & anxiety buffers and did some 1 on 1 talking therapy. It's hard to describe the resulting transformation. But the nugget of value that I *can* share is that there's no alternative to just getting the f**k on with doing good stuff (which includes the dull-but-important life maintenance bits).

I'll occasionally glance at self-help ideas now and think that the business model hangs on just complicating that idea. It also helps to become really *bored* with being anxious & depressed before trying to fix it 🤓

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