“Yes comes right away, No never comes”, is a phrase I learned from Gretchen Rubin. I’m a believer in her “four tendencies” and reading her books has helped me understand myself (I’m an obliger, btw). But yes comes right away, no never comes has completely changed my attitude to lots of endeavours. Most of my work is freelance, so I’m sending off pitches all the time. And it is absolutely true. An editor who responds within an hour is saying YES. If you never get a reply, they’re not interested.
I'm a fan of Gretchen Rubin, too. I'm an obliger but with a not-inconsiderable streak of rebel at times. Her rebel's motto has stuck with me: "you can't make me, and neither can I." Lol
I sympathize. I had an experience like this recently with a couple pieces I submitted somewhere.
I'm a fan of Gretchen Rubin, too. I'm an obliger but with a not-inconsiderable streak of rebel at times. Her rebel's motto has stuck with me: "you can't make me, and neither can I." Lol
This is one of the more inspiring posts I've read in quite a while.
This is a trove of emotional intelligence! I've just had some epiphanies making sense of some things I've noticed about life in other contexts.